Stuck in a fear storm? You may be experiencing an upgrade...

I’m loving being back in the coaching seat in between contracts and so many revelations to boot! Only this time I’ve upgraded my skills to include NLP (aka Neuro-Linguistic Programming). There are many pseudo definitions for this pseudoscience but basically NLP techniques help people reprogram their mindset. The lifetime of maps referencing past experience which create havoc on our ability to solve current problems. It was Einstein who eloquently quoted that you can’t solve problems with the thinking that created them in the first place. Ain’t he just a genius!

So having clocked up some very insightful coaching hours also translates to expanding my networks and meeting humans who are a bit stuck, but have the courage to want to change. People like you and me who are wanting to live their best lives but know there’s something missing. Or people who have been dealt with the challenging cards from life’s formidable Tarot deck. There’s a definite common thread in the storylines, and it goes without saying that we all have so much more capacity in ourselves than we give credit for. 

The common enemy is fear. The three universal fears arise in every conversation. The fear of not being enough, the fear of not belonging and the fear of not being loved. These fears manifest in different ways and fear is punctual. It’s always on time, clocked in ready to do its best work and sabotage!

Unless….we short circuit the beast and reverse manifest something different in its place. Like acceptance, growth, resilience, compassion, patience, self-love and the list goes on. In my personal experience and what I have observed in my clients is that once you make friends with fear and it’s derivatives (uncertainty, change, grief, conflict) and Stop. Listen. Pontificate the possibilities. Then something magical happens... 

...We get woke folks! Yes, I’m talking about an actual awakening. The cabin fever experienced from the chrysalis, the caterpillar to butterfly pain gives way to a rebirth. An upgraded YOU. Much more potent than an IOS upgrade, an upgraded version of you no longer carries the old entanglements and meanings attached to painful events. This YOU feels things and knows emotions are OK. This YOU recognises you are not hostage to your past and you have a choice in every immediate situation to reboot and remember you are a divine being having a human experience. You begin to live life and DO life and not be DONE by life. Yay YOU!

So when you're being knocked about testing times, seized by low vibration emotions, take the butterfly view and rejoice. YOU are ready for an upgrade my friend. Newton’s law of motion states that nothing stays in inertia forever when forces are in contact and this applies to you. These stormy times are up levelling you to the next rung and it’s opener out there. The ocean is calmer and the breeze is sweet. 

A perfect storm is always rough at the peak of the tempest but as you navigate your ship, remember, this is a character crafting at its finest. Feel chosen in a good way and reach out to your support networks. Friends, family, colleagues, counsellors, youtube influencers, your friendly neighbourhood mindset coach (shameless plug). No one needs to do this alone.

When you take flight, you’ll look back and say yasss!! A renewed version of you is now not only the fearless captain but the humble teacher. 

I’m so grateful to my brave coachees. This week I’ve seen them move beyond limits and teach me a thing or two. I’ve seen them take up the sword of action and let their driver lead and their ego enjoy the ride. It’s an absolute pleasure to be on the upgrading journey with them.

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